Friday, November 18, 2016

How to resolve a hurt you caused

I am usually a very sensitive person. I always have been. I was the little girl who you would look at the wrong way and would cry.
I felt everything very deeply.
I have always tried to be the one that others can come to to talk about things, keeping what they have to say with a confidence.
I am usually really good with reading people, seeing that they need something or less of something.
But, of late I did something wrong.
I hurt some one's feelings.
I didn't intend to, but it happened.
I miss-read them and my usual joking personality went too far.
The result was that they ended up with their feelings very hurt and they are having a hard time speaking to me, though I have already apologized.
Sometimes apologies are not enough.
Sometimes words are not enough.

I have to reflect on what I could have done differently.

This person, though I have not been friends with them very long, I consider them to be a good friend. I thought that I knew her enough to know how she would react, but I didn't.
I should have been more sensitive.
I should have tried to read her better.
I am not sure what else.
I didn't do anything cruel, but I did take my joking around a little too far.
I felt bad right away.
I apologized.
I also tried to talk to her about it, but she declined to talk about it.
That's okay.
I did something wrong.
But, I hope that she will communicate with me soon.
I want a friend to be truthful with me.
I can handle it.
Especially if it is a character flaw on my part. I want to be confronted with it. I want to fix it.
I want to be a better person.
Everyday I try to be just that.
But, I need her to be that type of friend to me.
All I can do now is wait.
All I can do is hope that she will open up to me.

UPDATE!

So, I know that she doesn't really like to open up about her feelings, so I did the talking.
I basically said that I knew that my other co-worker and I felt really bad and knew that we teased her without acknowledging that she was having a hard time. I apologized for being insensitive and told her that we really and truly care about her and will be more sensitive in the future.
She seemed relieved and acknowledged that her spouse had mentioned that she should have told us how she felt or we wouldn't know. I told her that I could tell how she felt without words.

All is forgiven! All is better.
The moral of the lesson is to own up to your wrong!
Acknowledge your wrong!
Apologize when necessary!
Correct your mistakes as soon as possible!

I love my friends and co-workers! They are my family away from home. I spend more time at work then I do at home.
I need my work to be in spirits and full of love and respect.
Strive to do good ALL THE TIME!
Don't be prideful and own your mistakes.
This is the first step to peace!
Plus, a little faith and prayer definitely helps :)


Saturday, November 12, 2016

Make a change for good...

Times are tough to say the least...
We are at a point in our country where we are teetering on chaos.
We have a new president...
We have new agendas...
We are unsure more than ever which way we are going to go, and which way the results of actions are going to go.

My philosophy has always to hope for the best, but expect the worse.
So...I will.
I will be prepared for anything...
I will hope that the peace will result...
That we will not have to endure war, pain, death or suffering.

Now, with that said...I have to concentrate on my family, myself and my community.
I have to make choices that are God geared.
The Bible is a great reference the questions that we have in life. One of the greatest things that I have learned from reading it is that I must love.
I must love EVERYONE!!! EVERYONE!!!!!

Let me say it again...EVERYONE!!!!!!!

Yes, even those who do me wrong.
That doesn't mean that I will allow myself to be abused. I will still fight for the greater good, but I just refuse to hate.

I refuse to hate!
Hating someone is only going to poison myself and my own heart.
I don't have to like them, but I refuse to hate.
I will not lower myself to the level of the haters.
I will not lower myself to the level of the racists, the liars, the prideful.
I will love.
I will forgive.
I will be someone that my children will look up to.

I am a warrior. I am a women of substance.
I am one of a kind.

I challenge you all to be the same as well.
Make a change for good...
Make that conscious decision daily...

Say it out loud...
"I will be the change the world needs! I will do what is right, what is good, what will matter for the good of humanity!"

Take today, a gift, and be grateful!

Love,
Rochelle